What most parents “think” acting success looks like IS NOT actually how acting success happens, in reality.
This is why you cannot get discouraged by 2 or 10 or 50 or even 100 plus auditions. Your child actor may land some. They will not land most. No rhyme or reasons sometimes.
But, if your child actor keeps going, they will get closer to the larger successes. But, again, true to the image on this page, there will be some twists and lots of turns, some setbacks, and then moments of moving forward, while sometimes taking a step back. All normal.
Study this image. Print out this image. Hang it up. Put it in your head and freely discuss it with your child. You then won’t forget that it’s all normal, when there are challenges, and the best thing you can do for your child actor is to stay positive with them and keep them in professional acting training.
IMPORTANT – It’s NOT ONLY success when your child gets on a TV show or in a Film. Their success happens along the way. And those moments should specifically be applauded by you.
Success is when your child actor does something new, breaks through a challenge. For example, if they are young, the day that your actor learns to keep his or her eyes on the reader or on their scene partner. That is a HUGE success and should be applauded.
Another example, the day that your child actor learns to use the correct facial expressions to match the emotion he or she is expressing, that is a HUGE success too.
When your pre-teen actor learns how to make confident choices and the day he or she is able to not break character when the audience is either laughing or crying or someone is yelling behind them. That is a HUGE success.
The day your child says he or she learned XYZ and tells you in the car, on the way home from class. That is a HUGE success. Applaud that too.
The point is, success comes along the way. Those moments should be celebrated. Boost your child actor up along the way! On a quick note, when they fail, it’s good to talk about what they “learned from it”. I always take the time to say, okay, moving onward, but what did you learn from that one? We talk about 1-2 things that she can take away from it and use the next audition, next singing performance or the next showcase at her acting school.
We, as parents, have to teach kids how to be happy with their gains along the way. When they are adults, they will need to know how to get rejections without freaking out or stopping what they love. If we teach them now how to be proud of themselves with smaller things, then, they will adapt better to adulthood, when they will certainly continue to hear Nos, but we may not always be around (every minute) to help them.
If you are in this only for the end game for your child, then get out…And, I can promise you, as I’ve seen it, if you are in this acting journey only for the end game (you want your child on TV), you will burn your child actor out. Happens to too many.
Ask yourself, when was the last time you congratulated them on a specific success along the acting journey? If you cannot remember it, then it may be too long.